Is Social Media making us lose our sense of humour?


Now, I’m not usually the type of blogger who posts anything controversial, I’m usually a bit of a fence sitter, trying hard not to offend our easily offend-able society.

But last night, something ground my gears a little and I was left so baffled, I just had to share with you all.

As most of you know, I am a mother, and as a mother I am a member of a few “mum groups” on facebook. These are a sort of mummy Mecca, where we can go and vent, ask/give advice, share funny stories, and generally have a giggle…or so you would think.
… Is it just me, or have SOME (not all, most are fabulous!) of the admins of some of these groups become less like pillars of support, and more like tyrannical dictators ready to swipe you down at the first instance of disagreement?

Well, as for me I am usually the one who reads all the posts, sometimes asks questions, but generally doesn’t get involved in the catty mum- bashing that erupts all the more often these days. I like to see myself as a bit of a joker, who will crack a joke when I feel it is needed.

Now, last night on one of these groups (it shall remain nameless), there was a thread where a few ladies got a little heated during a debate on (a certain supermarket’s) vouchers. I will spare you the details. But as I read the some 99 comments, I found myself wanting to shout “come on Momma’s!! Let’s simmer down and have a laugh.”, so I did what anyone would have done (and rightfully so). I posted the Michael Jackson eating popcorn “I’m just here to read the comments” meme…BIG MISTAKE!!

*hangs head in shame*

Apparently, arguing over supermarket vouchers – perfectly acceptable, hilarious memes – absolutely frowned upon.

Safe to say I got banned from the group in question. As did my mother, and my husband.

My dear mummy got banned for questioning my dramatic banning. Then it got better…my husband got banned when the “ban-ers” chum chimed in to say I was banned for NAME CALLING (lol) and he proceeding to share these (unedited) screenshots (shown below), to out the fibber!

All of our comments were swiftly removed as fast as we were.

Our crime? Back cheeking the admin? Disagreeing with the admin? I don’t even know…

So below are a few screen shots of said drama…please, don’t scold me now, I’ve been scolded enough…

meme1 meme2 meme3

Ok, so yeah. That just happened.

Take it in.

Take it all in.

Can somebody please tell me…when did we lose our sense of humour? When did we start taking social media so seriously?

And when…just WHEN did it become ok for a grown woman to think she can scold another grown woman?

Isn’t life at home/work hard enough without these vices like social media becoming so serious too? As mothers are we not meant to have each others backs, share our wisdom with one another, and those hilarious stories of what our darling children got up to that day?

God I miss the days when people kept their opinions to themselves, and we weren’t all so wrapped up by social media that reality was slowly passing us by (yes I am guilty too!)

My point is this, lighten up ladies, it’s facebook.

bye felicia

Skint Momma xx

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14 Things Autism (ASD) parents would like you to know


This is a subject close to my heart, and with the help of the fabulous autism parents over in the ‘ASD Support Group Northern Ireland’ on Facebook, I was able to share some of their words of wisdom with you all.

I asked them to tell me what sort of things that they would like people to know about their child/children who have ASD.

These are some of the things they said…

1. When you see my child kicking and screaming in the supermarket, he’s not “just being a spoilt brat”, he’s trying to make sense of an environment that’s over stimulating to him.

2. Lots of ASD children have great attention to detail and can be gifted in Art, Music, Maths, Computers etc…They can go on to do great things with the right understanding and support.

3. Some kids with ASD are so literal, that they may take what you say differently than how it was meant, for example a flippant comment from somebody could mean weeks of stress or anxiety for them.

4. When you’ve met one ASD child, you’ve met one ASD child. Just because your cousin’s uncle’s brother’s friend has autism too doesn’t mean you know my child’s quirks as well. All children are different and it is the same with ASD children.

5. If my child starts screaming don’t assume I’m murdering her, that’s how she shows excitement!

6. Please do not ever say “he doesn’t look autistic”. There is no ‘autistic look’. It is not a compliment, it is actually quite offensive.

7. Offers of help are few and far between for many ASD parents. One hour out of your time could actually mean to world to us.

8. Children, young people and adults with autism are different, not defective. So telling a parent that their child “could pass for normal” is not a compliment.

9. Please don’t send us the latest article that’s appeared in the paper announcing some crackpot “cure”. Many of us would prefer the money that goes into these sorts of research projects to be spent on services and support, which are badly needed.

10. Do keep inviting us and including us in plans but please don’t be offended if we can’t participate or need to leave early.

11. Don’t be afraid to ask how our child is doing or to ask questions about autism.

12. Please don’t tell us “sure all little ones do that” or that your friend’s kid had autism and they turned out just fine.

13. Be patient with us if we happen to get a bit snappy sometimes (lack of sleep and worry will do that to you).

14.  Finally, please celebrate the positives with us! Our children’s milestones might occur much later on than a lot of other children. When they do reach them it can be an extremely emotional time for us and we will want to tell the world!


Skint Momma xx